The first thing you have to understand is that in life, in this world, you are a co-creator of your life. What that means is that, God has given you the free-will to create any type of life you want, and you are responsible for all your actions. So, whatever place you are right now- whether good or bad, you created it. And how, you may ask, do we create our life? The answer is in the Bible, Proverbs 23:7- "As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. To rephrase that; "you become what you think about". Whatever thought you hold in your mind for a period of time, inspires you to action, and creates a life based on those thoughts. It is a simple as that.